The other night, our oldest boy Brady was tossing a coin in the air. As he flipped it he watched it closely as it spun end over end. He would then catch it in his hand and ask me to guess whether it was heads or tails.
The odds of many things in our lives are just like that, heads or tails. The choice is ours to make and its either going to be a good choice or a less than good choice. The reason I say it like that is the difference between many choices in our lives doesn't always come down to good or bad--black or white. There are oftentimes choices that are better than a particular one but both are good, nonetheless. Common sense is the key in all of this. I believe that many times we are on the right track but we get caught up in being so 'letter of the law' that we miss good opportunities to make correct and sound choices.
Sometimes its not as cut and dry as heads and tails but Brady tossing the coin allowed me to look closer, and from a different perspective.
Showing posts with label Choice. Show all posts
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Wednesday, July 18, 2012
Saturday, February 4, 2012
I Believe In You
I've been thinking, over the past two days, about some of the things that are the most important to me. If you're married, think about the one thing that makes your marriage special. If you're not married, give some thought to the friends that you have and what makes those friendships unique.
I have given some thought to my own marriage, and, the friendships I have with people and what one common thread makes them all special.
When Becky and I hadn't been married that long, we had a conversation that involved trust for one another and the vital part that it played in maintaining a strong and successful marriage.
I worked with a woman who was nearly old enough to be my mother. She was someone that I cared about. I enjoyed the conversations we had about life and about our families. Our relationship was always appropriate. This woman asked me one day if I wanted to go get a burger for lunch. I responded that I would if someone else came with us. She gave me a funny look as if I was crazy. I explained to her that I knew it might sound crazy but that it just doesn't look good. It would be my luck that I would run into somebody that I knew and then their thoughts would run crazy about me being alone with another woman. Becky and I vowed to each other that even at work we would not go to lunch with someone of the opposite sex, alone. The appearance doesn't look good and I wouldn't ever want Becky to have reason to not trust me. "Self-trust is the first secret of success."(Ralph Waldo Emerson) I want to do things that allow me to maintain trust for myself.
There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about the decisions I make. Each one is based on trust or the trust that would be lost by making a poor one.
I have friends that I would trust with my own life. I believe that no matter what, they would guard my heart and all would be well. The number of these kinds of friends is smaller in number but important none the less.
I want to be a person that others can trust. When I say that I'll do something, there should be no question that it will get done. When I say that I'm in one place, it is sure that I am there. When someone tells me something in confidence, they can be sure that I will not tell another person...PERIOD!
These are the things that I want to do. There is a saying,"that it is better to be trusted , than it is to be loved." I believe that is true.
I have given some thought to my own marriage, and, the friendships I have with people and what one common thread makes them all special.
When Becky and I hadn't been married that long, we had a conversation that involved trust for one another and the vital part that it played in maintaining a strong and successful marriage.
I worked with a woman who was nearly old enough to be my mother. She was someone that I cared about. I enjoyed the conversations we had about life and about our families. Our relationship was always appropriate. This woman asked me one day if I wanted to go get a burger for lunch. I responded that I would if someone else came with us. She gave me a funny look as if I was crazy. I explained to her that I knew it might sound crazy but that it just doesn't look good. It would be my luck that I would run into somebody that I knew and then their thoughts would run crazy about me being alone with another woman. Becky and I vowed to each other that even at work we would not go to lunch with someone of the opposite sex, alone. The appearance doesn't look good and I wouldn't ever want Becky to have reason to not trust me. "Self-trust is the first secret of success."(Ralph Waldo Emerson) I want to do things that allow me to maintain trust for myself.
There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about the decisions I make. Each one is based on trust or the trust that would be lost by making a poor one.
I have friends that I would trust with my own life. I believe that no matter what, they would guard my heart and all would be well. The number of these kinds of friends is smaller in number but important none the less.
I want to be a person that others can trust. When I say that I'll do something, there should be no question that it will get done. When I say that I'm in one place, it is sure that I am there. When someone tells me something in confidence, they can be sure that I will not tell another person...PERIOD!
These are the things that I want to do. There is a saying,"that it is better to be trusted , than it is to be loved." I believe that is true.
Sunday, January 29, 2012
Follow Your Instincts
There are many times when a choice has to be made and I hesitate because I'm not quite sure which direction I should go. And I'm not necessarily talking about good versus bad. Maybe the choice is good versus good. Experience has shown that more times than not if I will follow my instinct, (God given gift) the decision I decide on ends up being what's best for me.
Our family attended Sacrament meeting today in West Jordan, Utah to listen to our niece as she spoke, prior to entering the Missionary Training Center, in Provo, Utah in two weeks as she embarks as a full-time missionary in the Indiana Indianapolis Mission. She spoke of a church leader who counseled her to follow her instincts in relation to whether a mission was the right thing for her. She spoke, today, with humility and gratitude. We are excited for her opportunity to serve.
Each one of us has the opportunity to choose. I hope that I will pay close attention to what my instinct says on any given days in my life. God has built into each one of the us the ability to choose the things that we should do. That internal compass will lead us to reach the potential that He knows we can. The responsibility is ours and the rewards are great!
Our family attended Sacrament meeting today in West Jordan, Utah to listen to our niece as she spoke, prior to entering the Missionary Training Center, in Provo, Utah in two weeks as she embarks as a full-time missionary in the Indiana Indianapolis Mission. She spoke of a church leader who counseled her to follow her instincts in relation to whether a mission was the right thing for her. She spoke, today, with humility and gratitude. We are excited for her opportunity to serve.
Each one of us has the opportunity to choose. I hope that I will pay close attention to what my instinct says on any given days in my life. God has built into each one of the us the ability to choose the things that we should do. That internal compass will lead us to reach the potential that He knows we can. The responsibility is ours and the rewards are great!
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