The reality is that not everyone is a 'toucher'. Because I was raised by parents who show their affection, no matter where they are, it is just a part of every day life. Our children are being raised in the same sort of way because Becky was also raised in a family similar to mine. I hope that you'll listen and consider what I'm talking about.
The sense of touch is a bonding type of sense. I clearly remember times in my life when I would awaken in the middle of the night feeling very ill. It was during those times that I wanted the touch of my mom to help make me feel better. As a young boy, she would hold me and rock me in the old wooden rocking chair. There was no better feeling in the world. Our children have all had that same experience.
As a grown man, I long for the touch of my sweet wife when things don't go quite how I hoped they would go. In the rare times that I'm sick, her touch is the healing power that I need. To hold Becky's hand is both comforting and soothing to my heart and soul.
I recall a conversation I had with a friend, a number of years ago. He was going through a particularly hard time. This time even took a toll on his marriage. He told me that the problems in his marriage came as a result of no affection being shown by his wife while he was going through this tough time. He didn't mean anything sexual he just said there was never even a hug or a kiss that would clearly show her willingness to empathize with him. Her attitude seemed to be to just toughen up and deal with the problems that he faced. There is a certain amount of truth to that philosophy too. I hurt for my friend because I receive sincere affection from my wife, every single day.
Our children need us to touch them so that they can feel our love. I believe that touch is an integral part of our existance.
