I had the opportunity to coach Danny's soccer team, as they had a game, this morning. Their coach is out of town and so he asked if I would fill in for him. There are normally ten players on his team but today there were only seven. That meant that only one person would sit at a time so the real key during today's game was going to be the time management of the players to give them some sort of rest to be able to last the entire game. That was very difficult to do. By the last five minutes, the kids were running on pure guts.
There is a lesson to learn from this scenario. Life really does take a 'team effort' in many instances. There isn't anybody that can do everything all on their own and expect to survive. Sometimes, life introduces things that are difficult to handle, and much like the kids in today's soccer game, we are expected to run off of pure guts. It's okay though.
Today, the General Conference, of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints began. I am always rewarded by the things I am taught by the leaders of the church. I was reminded of the importance of enduring things in life that may be difficult to understand when they are happening. Most of the time, the difficulty comes from someone that I know who has problems that weigh them down but ask me to help them through those tough times. We all know what that is like. We help where we can until things become calmer in the lives of our friends or family who are struggling.
It was a great lesson for me to coach the young team of kids. I am always amazed at the opportunities to learn and to be reminded of things in my life. It makes me thankful for my life and all that I am blessed with.
Saturday, March 31, 2012
Friday, March 30, 2012
Smile, It's Contagious
There is a well-known song in the LDS church that the children often sing, in Primary. When I was a boy, that was one of my favorite songs.
"If you chance to meet a frown, do not let it stay. Quickly turn it upside down and smile that frown away. No one likes a frowny face, change it for a smile. Make the world a better place by smiling all the while."
There is simplicity in the message of that song, but I believe, wholeheartedly, that if the people's of the world fully understood the solid principle, that this children's song teaches, it would make for a better place to live.
A simple smile is a very small means in bringing someone else a great amount of joy.
I ask myself, "Do you smile, so that people know that you are happy?" I think I can improve in this area.
A person walked by me, today, and their smile encompassed their whole face. When they smiled, it made their eyes smile, too. It was fun to recognize that and to instantly feel of their joy. That's how I want to be.
The world ought to know that no matter what I'm doing, I am happy. They will know that how I feel about my life is directly reflected from the smile that I display.
Remember the words to the primary song. It stands as a perfect reminder for me.
"If you chance to meet a frown, do not let it stay. Quickly turn it upside down and smile that frown away. No one likes a frowny face, change it for a smile. Make the world a better place by smiling all the while."
There is simplicity in the message of that song, but I believe, wholeheartedly, that if the people's of the world fully understood the solid principle, that this children's song teaches, it would make for a better place to live.
A simple smile is a very small means in bringing someone else a great amount of joy.
I ask myself, "Do you smile, so that people know that you are happy?" I think I can improve in this area.
A person walked by me, today, and their smile encompassed their whole face. When they smiled, it made their eyes smile, too. It was fun to recognize that and to instantly feel of their joy. That's how I want to be.
The world ought to know that no matter what I'm doing, I am happy. They will know that how I feel about my life is directly reflected from the smile that I display.
Remember the words to the primary song. It stands as a perfect reminder for me.
Thursday, March 29, 2012
Self Control
Today, at work, my mind went to racing about the need for personal control. As I thought, I looked over the work that I was performing and found a parallel between it and the subject of control.
During the course of a day, I drill hundreds of holes into the aluminum details that are eventually assembled, by varying fasteners, into larger sub-assemblies of the 737 commercial airliner. Those holes need to be clean and round. Without precision and detail, with the tools required on the job, the holes become elongated and crooked. This doesn't seem like that big of a deal to some, but experience has taught me that the shape and size of the holes is of a critical nature to the longevity of the aircraft parts.
Such is the case with everything else in our lives. I have often given thought to my own life and the things that I do that could be viewed as reckless and could use a little attention to become better in different areas.
I had a recent conversation where the person I was speaking with rehearsed that abuse was the problem in a home of someone they knew. I was saddened that the man of this house didn't have enough control to keep his hands, that hurt others, to himself and that the mean words from his mouth came from an unbridled tongue.
Our ability to control those things that we have control over is imperative so that constant growth and peace can dwell.
A life of peace and contentment will not be achieved without the implementation of self-control. It is, and will always be, an attribute of goodness.
During the course of a day, I drill hundreds of holes into the aluminum details that are eventually assembled, by varying fasteners, into larger sub-assemblies of the 737 commercial airliner. Those holes need to be clean and round. Without precision and detail, with the tools required on the job, the holes become elongated and crooked. This doesn't seem like that big of a deal to some, but experience has taught me that the shape and size of the holes is of a critical nature to the longevity of the aircraft parts.
Such is the case with everything else in our lives. I have often given thought to my own life and the things that I do that could be viewed as reckless and could use a little attention to become better in different areas.
I had a recent conversation where the person I was speaking with rehearsed that abuse was the problem in a home of someone they knew. I was saddened that the man of this house didn't have enough control to keep his hands, that hurt others, to himself and that the mean words from his mouth came from an unbridled tongue.
Our ability to control those things that we have control over is imperative so that constant growth and peace can dwell.
A life of peace and contentment will not be achieved without the implementation of self-control. It is, and will always be, an attribute of goodness.
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Our Home
My mind has been focused, thinking about the place that I would most rather go--home. It is the place where those who love me the very most reside. It is where I can be 'me' without any exceptions. It is where I feel safe and secure. It is where our family is. There is peace and contentment therein.
I want you to take a moment and reflect on your home and what are the things that bring you the most joy while you're there. I hope that it is a place that you long to be. If it's not, maybe there are changes that can occur to help it become the place you want to be.
I have told many people before, that my life could be penned right out of the world's greatest fairytale. I'm not saying that everything has always gone as perfectly planned. I am suggesting that I have never had any reason to feel threatened or unsafe within the walls of my home.
Our homes ought to be the haven wherein our families can dwell with stability and peace.
Becky and I try hard, every day, to make our home the first place our children want to come the minute the bell dismisses them to come home from school. Because even if the day has been rough, there is the anticipation that comes from knowing that home is near and when you walk through the door, all is well in the arms of those that love you the very most.
I hope that this is a more normal occurrence with families across the globe. The reality is that many are not so fortunate. The only control I have is in my own home. We are striving to be the best we can be. What a child feels in the home of their parents will directly impact what they will one day do in their own homes.
My prayers are filled with thanksgiving for the home that I grew up in and the outstanding job my parents did in creating a place where love existed abundantly. I love you, mom and dad!
I give thanks for the home I currently have where that same love exists. I owe that remarkable feat to Becky. She creates that warmth that we all enjoy. I love you, sweetheart! My heart is overjoyed with my life!
Mine is the hope that homes will exist where love is overflowing. Let not your places of residence be houses alone, rather places of safe haven and peace abounding. Let them be places called home.
I want you to take a moment and reflect on your home and what are the things that bring you the most joy while you're there. I hope that it is a place that you long to be. If it's not, maybe there are changes that can occur to help it become the place you want to be.
I have told many people before, that my life could be penned right out of the world's greatest fairytale. I'm not saying that everything has always gone as perfectly planned. I am suggesting that I have never had any reason to feel threatened or unsafe within the walls of my home.
Our homes ought to be the haven wherein our families can dwell with stability and peace.
Becky and I try hard, every day, to make our home the first place our children want to come the minute the bell dismisses them to come home from school. Because even if the day has been rough, there is the anticipation that comes from knowing that home is near and when you walk through the door, all is well in the arms of those that love you the very most.
I hope that this is a more normal occurrence with families across the globe. The reality is that many are not so fortunate. The only control I have is in my own home. We are striving to be the best we can be. What a child feels in the home of their parents will directly impact what they will one day do in their own homes.
My prayers are filled with thanksgiving for the home that I grew up in and the outstanding job my parents did in creating a place where love existed abundantly. I love you, mom and dad!
I give thanks for the home I currently have where that same love exists. I owe that remarkable feat to Becky. She creates that warmth that we all enjoy. I love you, sweetheart! My heart is overjoyed with my life!
Mine is the hope that homes will exist where love is overflowing. Let not your places of residence be houses alone, rather places of safe haven and peace abounding. Let them be places called home.
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Truth
I read a recent article that was very powerful to me. It spoke truth to my heart. I want to speak about it for just a moment.
We are spirit children of a Heavenly Father. We are here on earth, for just a few brief moments, in the eternal realm. One of the chief reasons we are here is to gain experience through learning. Because we once lived in the literal presence of God, we know truth. We know what it means to know what is right. During this short journey on earth, that knowledge of truth will be tested by an evil force. This force wishes to thwart our direction which is aimed for that which is right. Every human being, on this earth, knows how to choose what is right. We brought that God-given ability with us when we came to earth.
I have always enjoyed truth. Through my own experience, I have learned that by following truth, the pathway seems clear and a lot more enjoyable to travel. It doesn't, however, mean that the pathway is always smooth.
When Becky and I were first married, a young family lived in the same apartment complex as we did. Their young life, together, had some real challenges. They quarrelled a little too often and the unrest in their home finally 'boiled' to overflowing. One particularly busy day, I got an impression that I needed to go and make a visit to their apartment. The truth was spoken clearly to my heart but I chose to ignore it. I received the impression again and for a second time, I ignored it. The day went on and I continued with the projects at hand. I didn't give another thought to the impressions I had received, earlier in the day. The days passed by and I decided, on my time, to visit the home of this young family. I knocked on the door but there was no answer. I knocked again but nobody answered the door. I walked away, a little disheartened. As I passed by the front window, I noticed that the place was completely empty. My heart sunk as I reflected back, on the days gone by, when I had received the silent promptings. I went home and prayed that I would be forgiven for my foolishness. I listened carefully as I received the feeling in my heart. I could feel the words very clearly, "When I speak, listen and obey."
Truth had been spoken and I chose not to obey. I have since learned that when truth is spoken, I need to listen, now, and then I must choose to obey.
We are spirit children of a Heavenly Father. We are here on earth, for just a few brief moments, in the eternal realm. One of the chief reasons we are here is to gain experience through learning. Because we once lived in the literal presence of God, we know truth. We know what it means to know what is right. During this short journey on earth, that knowledge of truth will be tested by an evil force. This force wishes to thwart our direction which is aimed for that which is right. Every human being, on this earth, knows how to choose what is right. We brought that God-given ability with us when we came to earth.
I have always enjoyed truth. Through my own experience, I have learned that by following truth, the pathway seems clear and a lot more enjoyable to travel. It doesn't, however, mean that the pathway is always smooth.
When Becky and I were first married, a young family lived in the same apartment complex as we did. Their young life, together, had some real challenges. They quarrelled a little too often and the unrest in their home finally 'boiled' to overflowing. One particularly busy day, I got an impression that I needed to go and make a visit to their apartment. The truth was spoken clearly to my heart but I chose to ignore it. I received the impression again and for a second time, I ignored it. The day went on and I continued with the projects at hand. I didn't give another thought to the impressions I had received, earlier in the day. The days passed by and I decided, on my time, to visit the home of this young family. I knocked on the door but there was no answer. I knocked again but nobody answered the door. I walked away, a little disheartened. As I passed by the front window, I noticed that the place was completely empty. My heart sunk as I reflected back, on the days gone by, when I had received the silent promptings. I went home and prayed that I would be forgiven for my foolishness. I listened carefully as I received the feeling in my heart. I could feel the words very clearly, "When I speak, listen and obey."
Truth had been spoken and I chose not to obey. I have since learned that when truth is spoken, I need to listen, now, and then I must choose to obey.
Monday, March 26, 2012
I'm Devoted To You
I know a man, who I consider my friend. I have known him for a short time but I have come to love this man. It wasn't that long ago that I watched closely as my friend showed complete devotion to his wife who was ill. She struggled with various problems with her health. They had been married many years and had spent more time married than they ever did single. My friend cared both day and night for his sick wife. He not only cared for her but he made sure all of the things around their home were taken care of. I watched with admiration.
She eventually passed away and my friend has come to know 'loneliness' very well. I spoke with him a few days ago and listened as he rehearsed, to me, all of the facets of a man with a broken heart. I couldn't help but hurt for him as I listened to what he had to say.
Every day is a new day to do better than the day prior. I want to do some of the things that this friend did. My personality is very different from his but I have seen a few attributes of his that I would like to emulate. He cared for the love of his life in the very best way he knew how.
I remember back on the day that Becky and I were sealed in the Salt Lake temple. I was grateful for that day and what we were doing. All of these years later, I am even more grateful for our decision to be married to one another. I am still wondering what it was that I did that would convince Becky to be with me. I am sure grateful that she saw in me, somebody who would take care of her. It is a great opportunity for me!
Words like commitment, devotion, unconditional love, forgiveness, tolerance, patience. These are real words with important meanings. It's these attributes that are the ingredients to success in your marriages and different relationships.
I am trying harder today to implement these characteristics into my life. I want to do better today!
She eventually passed away and my friend has come to know 'loneliness' very well. I spoke with him a few days ago and listened as he rehearsed, to me, all of the facets of a man with a broken heart. I couldn't help but hurt for him as I listened to what he had to say.
Every day is a new day to do better than the day prior. I want to do some of the things that this friend did. My personality is very different from his but I have seen a few attributes of his that I would like to emulate. He cared for the love of his life in the very best way he knew how.
I remember back on the day that Becky and I were sealed in the Salt Lake temple. I was grateful for that day and what we were doing. All of these years later, I am even more grateful for our decision to be married to one another. I am still wondering what it was that I did that would convince Becky to be with me. I am sure grateful that she saw in me, somebody who would take care of her. It is a great opportunity for me!
Words like commitment, devotion, unconditional love, forgiveness, tolerance, patience. These are real words with important meanings. It's these attributes that are the ingredients to success in your marriages and different relationships.
I am trying harder today to implement these characteristics into my life. I want to do better today!
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Affection
My thought today, has a split audience, with differing opinions, but I feel strongly about my own personal belief on this issue, and wish to share.
The display of affection is both healing and needed in order for one to feel loved in completeness. I don't believe that there is a time or a place, per se, for the display of affection between family members to be inappropriate. I will give a kiss and a hug to my wife, children, parents, and siblings in the presence of anyone in any place. That is appropriate at any time!
I sat downstairs and sang songs to our sons, this evening. As our youngest child, Danny was falling quickly into sleep, I held his hand as I sang three of his favorite songs. The touch of his hand on mine was powerful. I felt grateful that he wanted to hold my hand.
I have enjoyed many times holding Becky's hand throughout our marriage. I have enjoyed that she has never shunned my display of affection. We have been blessed with her touch without ever worrying where we were at or who was in our presence.
Many years ago, while at a church meeting, Becky and I kissed. An individual approached us about whether we thought that appropriate that we would kiss in public. Becky and I both gave a look of disbelief that anyone would ever question that. I wish more people would publicly display their affection for one another. I'm not talking about 'making out' in public. It is okay to hold hands, give a loved one a hug and kiss, or even kiss your spouse.
I have spoken with people that wish someone would show them, openly, that they love them. They're talking about the need for someone to show some affection.
My dad serves the community of Sacramento through the Interfaith Council. The representation from many different faiths makes his opportunity very rewarding. He tells about some of the elderly people he visits with and how much they enjoy when he comes to talk to them about Jesus. He isn't afraid to give hugs to these people. I am so grateful for his efforts!
I hold the belief that if there is anyone on this planet who needs a hug from someone, I will do that for anyone. I am grateful that I was raised to display affection. The world needs more of the Christ-like display of touch.
The display of affection is both healing and needed in order for one to feel loved in completeness. I don't believe that there is a time or a place, per se, for the display of affection between family members to be inappropriate. I will give a kiss and a hug to my wife, children, parents, and siblings in the presence of anyone in any place. That is appropriate at any time!
I sat downstairs and sang songs to our sons, this evening. As our youngest child, Danny was falling quickly into sleep, I held his hand as I sang three of his favorite songs. The touch of his hand on mine was powerful. I felt grateful that he wanted to hold my hand.
I have enjoyed many times holding Becky's hand throughout our marriage. I have enjoyed that she has never shunned my display of affection. We have been blessed with her touch without ever worrying where we were at or who was in our presence.
Many years ago, while at a church meeting, Becky and I kissed. An individual approached us about whether we thought that appropriate that we would kiss in public. Becky and I both gave a look of disbelief that anyone would ever question that. I wish more people would publicly display their affection for one another. I'm not talking about 'making out' in public. It is okay to hold hands, give a loved one a hug and kiss, or even kiss your spouse.
I have spoken with people that wish someone would show them, openly, that they love them. They're talking about the need for someone to show some affection.
My dad serves the community of Sacramento through the Interfaith Council. The representation from many different faiths makes his opportunity very rewarding. He tells about some of the elderly people he visits with and how much they enjoy when he comes to talk to them about Jesus. He isn't afraid to give hugs to these people. I am so grateful for his efforts!
I hold the belief that if there is anyone on this planet who needs a hug from someone, I will do that for anyone. I am grateful that I was raised to display affection. The world needs more of the Christ-like display of touch.
Saturday, March 24, 2012
Zion's Park Is Beautiful
Yesterday, we took a hike that was absolutely breathtaking. It was fun to have our children with us. One of the really fun parts for me was the ages of our children. They all were able to do the hike under their own power. I watched with amazement at how big everyone has gotten. I can't believe how the time has flown by.
I feel so blessed to have such a wonderful woman, like Becky, who stands by my side as we thoroughly enjoy this life, together. We also are grateful to be here with Becky's parents and here brother's family.
I am overwhelmed at the beauty of this part of the world, Zion's National Park.
We drove through Toquerville, Utah. That is where my dad was born and spent the first years of his life.
I am richly blessed and I recognize that each day.
There are dreams that I have in my life. One of those is the opportunity to spend time with my family. It never gets old. I love to watch their own distinct personalities and gifts that they have. I marvel at their independence and the desire they have to explore.
Several years ago, during a conversation with my mom, I expressed the fact that we didn't have a shy kid. She shared with me that her and my dad had long shared the opinion that it was easier to 'reign in' a child's personality rather than have to pry them out of a corner because they were too shy. I feel a great deal of gratitude that our children are confident and eager to explore life and all that it has to offer.
Today, we are excited to spend the day, further exploring the majesty of this beautiful place.
Friday, March 23, 2012
Freedom Is Great
I am thankful that we have the freedom to come and go as we please. We live in an incredible time when we can jump in the car and see the beauties of this world.
Utah is a beautiful state, with many of its own things to see.
Today, we are going to enjoy the day, as a family, seeing the a beauty of our immediate surroundings.
I am thankful to live in a place where we can enjoy all of these great things.
I feel of God's love for me and I thank Him today that I get to spend time doing enjoyable things with my family.
The words of a song remind me of His love.
"I know my Father lives, and loves me too. The spirit whispers this to me. And tells me it is true. He tells me it is true."
Let today be a day where memories are made that you will remember for a long time.
Utah is a beautiful state, with many of its own things to see.
Today, we are going to enjoy the day, as a family, seeing the a beauty of our immediate surroundings.
I am thankful to live in a place where we can enjoy all of these great things.
I feel of God's love for me and I thank Him today that I get to spend time doing enjoyable things with my family.
The words of a song remind me of His love.
"I know my Father lives, and loves me too. The spirit whispers this to me. And tells me it is true. He tells me it is true."
Let today be a day where memories are made that you will remember for a long time.
Thursday, March 22, 2012
Honest Day's Work
I remembered some advice that I got a long time ago. Give an honest day's work for an honest day's pay.
I have tried to remember that each and every day. It is good sound advice. I believe that giving an honest effort to my employer is extremely important.
This simple principle goes a long way!
I have tried to remember that each and every day. It is good sound advice. I believe that giving an honest effort to my employer is extremely important.
This simple principle goes a long way!
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
People First
Last night, I visited with members of a family that I didn't even know. I was on a church assignment and excited to go and make a visit that would hopefully uplift and edify. We talked about several things, which included life and into the eternities. This family is very child-like is every sense of the word. They were very simple people who were easy for me to love.
I was reminded of a great truth. No matter how different these people were from me, we shared a common thread. We are children of a Father in Heaven who loves us deeply. His love is hard to fully comprehend. I could feel that these good people were doing the best that they could, in life. I loved that approach a great deal.
It is imperative that we learn as much as we possibly can. We all have gifts and abilities to learn in different ways. The knowledge that we gain will help us through this journey of life. It's a great one, too!
I love to go to people's homes and learn more about them. There is something to be said about conversing with someone in their own familiar surroundings.
At the end of the evening, I was uplifted and strengthened by the opportunity I had to learn from these fine people.
I consider it a choice blessing to get to know and associate with people I've never met before. I look forward to future opportunities to do this again. Every individual is important!
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Character Builders
There are some of life's lessons that seem more significant than others. I would rank the character of a man or woman and the experiences that shape them at the top of the list of things that are of most import. The shaping happens in many different and unique ways. I want to talk about a couple of 'character builders.'
The first one is that characteristic of honesty. Each one of us has experienced the lesson of telling the truth. I still remember one of the first untruths I told. My third grade teacher was Darlene Dudley. She was a young college graduate and I thought that she was very nice. I recall that she asked me a simple question about something and for some reason I didn't tell her the truth. She was no dummy, however. She was methodical about calling my bluff. As all of the other kids left the classroom for afternoon recess, Miss Dudley asked if she could speak with me. My heart began to race wildly because I knew what she wanted to talk about and I wondered why I hadn't just told the truth in the beginning. "Derek, what you said to me doesn't make any sense, are you sure you are telling me the truth?" I thought that my heart was going to come out of my chest. I thought to myself. "Now is the time to tell the truth and take the punishment that is coming because of my dishonesty." I did tell her the truth, the second time. I could see the disappointed look on her face but she gave me a reassuring smile that she was proud of my decision to tell the truth. The character trait we should all desire to have is honesty--the first time.
The second characteristic we should want to have is the ability to accept people for who and how they are. This one is more difficult to master. I have come to realize that when I feel that someone is really weird, the mutual feeling probably exists in the mind of somebody else, about me. I'm trying really hard to not look at the shortcomings of others. I will admit that the natural man in me is hard to overcome. I believe that as I continue to try to master the principle of 'take someone as they are', I will become better for it. I will also learn many wonderful lessons from the different people around me. I have the desire to let people be who they are. That's a good start.
These two things, alone, will allow me to come closer to the man I want to be. I am striving to watch closely those who do this very well. I hope that, one day, I will better master these Christ-like character traits.
The first one is that characteristic of honesty. Each one of us has experienced the lesson of telling the truth. I still remember one of the first untruths I told. My third grade teacher was Darlene Dudley. She was a young college graduate and I thought that she was very nice. I recall that she asked me a simple question about something and for some reason I didn't tell her the truth. She was no dummy, however. She was methodical about calling my bluff. As all of the other kids left the classroom for afternoon recess, Miss Dudley asked if she could speak with me. My heart began to race wildly because I knew what she wanted to talk about and I wondered why I hadn't just told the truth in the beginning. "Derek, what you said to me doesn't make any sense, are you sure you are telling me the truth?" I thought that my heart was going to come out of my chest. I thought to myself. "Now is the time to tell the truth and take the punishment that is coming because of my dishonesty." I did tell her the truth, the second time. I could see the disappointed look on her face but she gave me a reassuring smile that she was proud of my decision to tell the truth. The character trait we should all desire to have is honesty--the first time.
The second characteristic we should want to have is the ability to accept people for who and how they are. This one is more difficult to master. I have come to realize that when I feel that someone is really weird, the mutual feeling probably exists in the mind of somebody else, about me. I'm trying really hard to not look at the shortcomings of others. I will admit that the natural man in me is hard to overcome. I believe that as I continue to try to master the principle of 'take someone as they are', I will become better for it. I will also learn many wonderful lessons from the different people around me. I have the desire to let people be who they are. That's a good start.
These two things, alone, will allow me to come closer to the man I want to be. I am striving to watch closely those who do this very well. I hope that, one day, I will better master these Christ-like character traits.
Monday, March 19, 2012
It's Time To Move On
You would think that at the age of forty, some lessons would be mastered or close to it. Well, today, was a reality check for me. For some time, I have harbored ill feelings toward an individual but today that reality came to a crossroad. I felt impressed to express my feelings to this person and formally apologize for my wrong feelings and ask for forgiveness. Because I wanted to make sure that I expressed myself correctly, I wrote a short note to this individual. The note I received in return was exactly what I needed to hear.
In the mission field, I tried to do something, every day, that would pull me out of my 'comfort zone.' That takes work. My experience today also required me to step outside of that zone and do something that I ultimately knew to be right.
When I was a kid, I felt like my parents knew so much about life and the consequences that came from making certain decisions. I didn't ever think that the reason they knew so much was that, one, they either made a mistake that taught them a particular lesson or, two, they knew someone who made a mistake that taught them a specific lesson of life. There was a time when I thought that my parents were flirting with perfection.
I pass on my personal learning experience of today, in hopes that someone else will make the choice to take something or someone that bothers them, today, and correct that situation so that not one more minute is wasted feeling sorry or bad.
This life continues to speed onward. The days and weeks race by. It is up to you as an individual to prioritize your life and weed out and fix that which is not good.
I want to be a good person--and I know you do, too. I want to get along with people.(That is sometimes very hard to do.) Each person does things according to their own individual abilities and talents. We don't all have to agree on everything. Now is the time and today is that day to fix the things that seem so tiny but that consume energy that we are unaware of.
I feel better knowing that progress is on my side. My heart feels better about this person. I have exercised some humility and that feels really good. Make the choice to fix those things that are currently amiss. You'll be very glad you did.
In the mission field, I tried to do something, every day, that would pull me out of my 'comfort zone.' That takes work. My experience today also required me to step outside of that zone and do something that I ultimately knew to be right.
When I was a kid, I felt like my parents knew so much about life and the consequences that came from making certain decisions. I didn't ever think that the reason they knew so much was that, one, they either made a mistake that taught them a particular lesson or, two, they knew someone who made a mistake that taught them a specific lesson of life. There was a time when I thought that my parents were flirting with perfection.
I pass on my personal learning experience of today, in hopes that someone else will make the choice to take something or someone that bothers them, today, and correct that situation so that not one more minute is wasted feeling sorry or bad.
This life continues to speed onward. The days and weeks race by. It is up to you as an individual to prioritize your life and weed out and fix that which is not good.
I want to be a good person--and I know you do, too. I want to get along with people.(That is sometimes very hard to do.) Each person does things according to their own individual abilities and talents. We don't all have to agree on everything. Now is the time and today is that day to fix the things that seem so tiny but that consume energy that we are unaware of.
I feel better knowing that progress is on my side. My heart feels better about this person. I have exercised some humility and that feels really good. Make the choice to fix those things that are currently amiss. You'll be very glad you did.
Sunday, March 18, 2012
It's Nice To See You
I saw a friend at church that I see on rare occasions. It was nice to see and visit with her. I am especially grateful for people that remain my friends, even though we rarely see each other. Friendship is a power word. "Aristotle said once that friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies." (Jeffrey R. Holland~1998)
The Book of Mormon teaches of a very special friendship that became stronger when it was focused on gospel principles. Early in their lives Alma and the sons of Mosiah rebelled against the teachings of their faithful parents and went about destroying the church of God. They were very cunning and very successful, later confessing that they were the “vilest of sinners” in their efforts to destroy the faith of other members of the church (Mosiah 28:4).
But in response to the prayers of their parents, other members of the church, and the power of God and his angels, these young men were dramatically converted to the truth and immediately set out to “repair all the injuries which they had done to the church” (Mosiah 27:35).
The sons of Mosiah declined the kingship which their father held and chose rather to be missionaries to the Lamanite people. Alma followed in their footsteps, choosing to serve a mission among the Nephite people. What had been an unworthy and destructive association now turned into a powerful and binding friendship, solidified by acts of personal righteousness and devotion.
After 14 years of long, hard, demanding missionary service—service that had included sorrow and opposition as well as miracles of every kind—Alma and the sons of Mosiah were reunited briefly before continuing their work for the Lord. The description of that reunion reveals how strong their friendship and love had become, even in their prolonged absence from one another.
“Alma did rejoice exceedingly to see his brethren; and what added more to his joy, they were still his brethren in the Lord; yea, and they had waxed strong in the knowledge of the truth; for they were men of a sound understanding and they had searched the scriptures diligently, that they might know the word of God.
“But this is not all; they had given themselves to much prayer, and fasting; therefore they had the spirit of prophecy, and the spirit of revelation, and when they taught, they taught with power and authority of God” (Alma 17:2–3).
I had a friend, in high school, who couldn't have been more different than me. Aside from our differences was a real brotherhood, filled with trust and love for one another. That friendship was never the same once I left on a full-time mission for the LDS church. I have often thought of the conversations we once had. When we did things together, we felt safe. Home life in our respective homes was very different from one another. If I saw him today, I would be very grateful. After graduation from high school, my friend and I took a week long trip to southern California. It was a trip filled with memories that I still think about. We learned some valuable things during that friendship that have made me the man I am today.
Don't ever underestimate the power of being a friend. The words that you speak have a power in and of themselves. Your example, of goodness, will penetrate your friends hearts and have an everlasting effect on their lives.
I have many people who are my friends. I love each one of them. I am eternally grateful for the friendship I have with my Savior, Jesus Christ. I feel of His love for me. His life brings me a great deal of comfort. His perfect example gives me the pattern by which to live my life.
Saturday, March 17, 2012
I Love Home
Have I ever mentioned that I love home? I have always enjoyed being at home. I love the spirit that we feel in our home. It's the contentment that I love the very most. Every member of our family, is trying to do their very best in life. I feel extreme gratitude for the gifts and talents that each member of our family brings. It is a wonderful life.
Becky and I went out with her parents and enjoyed dinner together, then went to the tabernacle, at Temple Square, to listen to the Orchestra at Temple Square with soloist Josh Wright on the piano. It was really wonderful to listen to the extreme talent of all who participated. I was glad to spend time with mom and dad.
Our children were at home and it felt nice to know that they were okay. It is so nice to have them be the ages that they are and know that while we were away, they were fine.
Once Becky and I got home, I felt grateful for the bounteous blessings we so enjoy!
Today, we have gotten some things done around the house to be able to start off our week nicely.
When Becky and I first got married, I dreamed of having a family that would bring me great joy. Although I had no idea how many children we would have, I desired to have a family, nonetheless. I have loved Becky so much for her willingness to be the one responsible to carry those babies and bring them safely to this world. She always did everything she could to guarantee that they were healthy. I have watched her be a mother who cares deeply for her children. She amazes me every day.
I feel grateful, every day, for all that she does to make each of our lives better. She is an amazing homemaker!
I thank heaven for a place that we can call home. We are blessed immensely.
I hope that each one of us can see, feel, and understand the love behind the blessings we are so freely given.
Becky and I went out with her parents and enjoyed dinner together, then went to the tabernacle, at Temple Square, to listen to the Orchestra at Temple Square with soloist Josh Wright on the piano. It was really wonderful to listen to the extreme talent of all who participated. I was glad to spend time with mom and dad.
Our children were at home and it felt nice to know that they were okay. It is so nice to have them be the ages that they are and know that while we were away, they were fine.
Once Becky and I got home, I felt grateful for the bounteous blessings we so enjoy!
Today, we have gotten some things done around the house to be able to start off our week nicely.
When Becky and I first got married, I dreamed of having a family that would bring me great joy. Although I had no idea how many children we would have, I desired to have a family, nonetheless. I have loved Becky so much for her willingness to be the one responsible to carry those babies and bring them safely to this world. She always did everything she could to guarantee that they were healthy. I have watched her be a mother who cares deeply for her children. She amazes me every day.
I feel grateful, every day, for all that she does to make each of our lives better. She is an amazing homemaker!
I thank heaven for a place that we can call home. We are blessed immensely.
I hope that each one of us can see, feel, and understand the love behind the blessings we are so freely given.
Friday, March 16, 2012
Dating Lasts Forever
Becky and I went and participated in a youth activity at the church. The sixteen and seventeen year old boys and girls (Priests and Laurels) had an activity on dating. Becky and I were asked if we could be part of the 'panel' that the youth could ask questions to about anything dealing with dating. It was a lot of fun to be a part of that and to have our oldest, Natalie, be there as part of the youth group. Good questions were asked and the two other married couples including Becky and I enjoyed the evening. The reaction from the kids seemed like they were genuinely pleased with how the evening went. I hope that they will take away something from that night and never forget it. If they will implement even one thing that they heard, I believe they will be better off.
I have thought about the constant dating scene that Becky and I have maintained in our marriage. That aspect keeps things very exciting and it gives us an opportunity to be together, with no other outside interruptions. We love our children so much but we need our date time, just with each other.
If you're not currently taking the time to date, do so now. The kids will always have lots of needs. There will always be housework to do and projects to complete but the strength of a couple's relationship is dependant upon the effective use of time, together, just the two of you.
I love Becky with all of my heart. I am grateful that she loves me. That knowledge, alone, makes every day worth it. It is easy to find the motivation to live life to its fullest and to do the things that make her proud of me. It is a joy to be with her and to feel of her love and complete devotion to me. Thanks for a great life! You are my best friend.
I have thought about the constant dating scene that Becky and I have maintained in our marriage. That aspect keeps things very exciting and it gives us an opportunity to be together, with no other outside interruptions. We love our children so much but we need our date time, just with each other.
If you're not currently taking the time to date, do so now. The kids will always have lots of needs. There will always be housework to do and projects to complete but the strength of a couple's relationship is dependant upon the effective use of time, together, just the two of you.
I love Becky with all of my heart. I am grateful that she loves me. That knowledge, alone, makes every day worth it. It is easy to find the motivation to live life to its fullest and to do the things that make her proud of me. It is a joy to be with her and to feel of her love and complete devotion to me. Thanks for a great life! You are my best friend.
Thursday, March 15, 2012
Show The Trust
I remember an experience at Camp Royaneh, outside of the Bay area, in California. There was a physical obstacle course that challenged us boy scouts. It was a favorite of ours because there were places that tested our fear of heights. One particular part of the course had to do with trust. One by one each scout climbed up on a high tree stump and with several boys with open arms the scout was expected to turn around with your back facing the scouts and then lean back and fall into the arms of the awaiting scouts. The idea was to display trust in your fellow scouts and believe that they would catch you without letting you hit the ground. That was a huge deal!
I have never had reason to lack trust in Becky throughout our marriage. I have had friends, however, who betrayed the trust that I once had in them. That just happens with most everybody. I desire to be one who can be trusted implicitly.
Several months ago, I was told something, by a friend, and asked to please not share it with anybody. I told him that I would not speak another word about what we had talked about. He hesitated slightly and seemed to rest assured when I promised that nobody would ever know a single thing about our conversation from me.
That is one of the greatest things I love about Becky. I know that if I share something with her that I don't want anyone else to know about, that my heart is safe and she won't share anything about what we talk about.
The saying that it is better to be trusted than it is to be loved is very appropriate.
Just as it was true at Camp Royaneh on the 'trust fall', so it is with each of us. We display trust for those that we love and we do things that will, in turn, warrant somebody else's trust in us.
It's one more principle in my life that I am trying to get better at. Little by little I will get better at it and my life will be better for it. I hope the same will be true for you.
I have never had reason to lack trust in Becky throughout our marriage. I have had friends, however, who betrayed the trust that I once had in them. That just happens with most everybody. I desire to be one who can be trusted implicitly.
Several months ago, I was told something, by a friend, and asked to please not share it with anybody. I told him that I would not speak another word about what we had talked about. He hesitated slightly and seemed to rest assured when I promised that nobody would ever know a single thing about our conversation from me.
That is one of the greatest things I love about Becky. I know that if I share something with her that I don't want anyone else to know about, that my heart is safe and she won't share anything about what we talk about.
The saying that it is better to be trusted than it is to be loved is very appropriate.
Just as it was true at Camp Royaneh on the 'trust fall', so it is with each of us. We display trust for those that we love and we do things that will, in turn, warrant somebody else's trust in us.
It's one more principle in my life that I am trying to get better at. Little by little I will get better at it and my life will be better for it. I hope the same will be true for you.
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
I'll Be Brave
I read an obituary of a young boy who passed away from the effects of Leukemia. I was deeply touched by one particular phrase that, I'm sure, was written by his mother. There were a few words that the young boy uttered while he was still alive and those stuck out to me the most. "I'll be brave." I am touched that through the five rounds of chemo that this young boy endured he would look into the eyes of his parents and tell them that he would be brave.
I have a renewed commitment to face life 'head on' and brave through all that is given to me to endure in this great life.
A story, of our time, reminds me of the bravery displayed for fellow human beings.
"During fighting in Somalia in October of 1993, two United States Army Rangers in a helicopter during the firefight learned that two other helicopters near them had fallen to the earth. The two rangers, in their relative safety aloft, learned by radio that no ground forces were available to rescue one of the downed aircrews. Growing numbers of the enemy were closing in on the crash site.
I was taught truth from the time I was very young. My parents saw that it was important, and vital, that I be taught the difference between right and wrong. They allowed me to stumble and fall, in order that I might learn eternal principles that would eventually and absolutely bless my life. When I fell, they were there by my side, to help pick me up and direct me in the direction that would bring me the greatest amount of happiness.
I understand that life has its challenges. Those will make us better. My desire is to be all that I am destined to be. Bravery is one of those characteristics that I would love to master. It is God-like in the purest form.
That young boy taught me a valuable lesson that has deeply penetrated my heart, today.
When all is said and done, I want it to be said of me that I was brave!
I have a renewed commitment to face life 'head on' and brave through all that is given to me to endure in this great life.
A story, of our time, reminds me of the bravery displayed for fellow human beings.
"During fighting in Somalia in October of 1993, two United States Army Rangers in a helicopter during the firefight learned that two other helicopters near them had fallen to the earth. The two rangers, in their relative safety aloft, learned by radio that no ground forces were available to rescue one of the downed aircrews. Growing numbers of the enemy were closing in on the crash site.
The two men watching from above volunteered to go down to the ground (the words they used on the radio were to “be inserted”) to protect their critically wounded comrades. Their request was denied because the situation was so dangerous. They asked a second time. Permission was again denied. Only after their third request were they put down on the ground. Armed only with their personal weapons, they fought their way to the crashed helicopter and the injured fliers. They moved through intense small arms fire as enemies converged on the crash site. They pulled the wounded from the wreckage. They put themselves in a perimeter around the wounded, placing themselves in the most dangerous positions. They protected their comrades until their ammunition was depleted and they were fatally wounded. Their bravery and their sacrifice saved the life of a pilot who would have been lost. They were each awarded posthumously the Medal of Honor, their nation’s highest recognition for bravery in the face of an armed enemy. The citation reads that what they did was “above and beyond the call of duty.”
I was taught truth from the time I was very young. My parents saw that it was important, and vital, that I be taught the difference between right and wrong. They allowed me to stumble and fall, in order that I might learn eternal principles that would eventually and absolutely bless my life. When I fell, they were there by my side, to help pick me up and direct me in the direction that would bring me the greatest amount of happiness.
I understand that life has its challenges. Those will make us better. My desire is to be all that I am destined to be. Bravery is one of those characteristics that I would love to master. It is God-like in the purest form.
That young boy taught me a valuable lesson that has deeply penetrated my heart, today.
When all is said and done, I want it to be said of me that I was brave!
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Out of the Mouths of Babes
I love to hear the funny things that come out of kids' mouths. Here are a couple of things that I read recently that put a smile on my face.
"At our annual family picnic, my nephew found a salamander in the creek and, quite proud of his catch, brought it over to the adults setting up lunch. After we all ooo'd and ah'd about his finding, my brother-in-law told him it was time to eat and to go put the salamander back where he had found it. My nephew said he wanted to keep it as a pet. They went back and forth about this for several minutes, when my brother-in-law said, "How would you feel if someone snatched you out of your home and took you away? This salamander needs to go back to his home." Dan looked at his dad, perplexed, then looked at that salamander down in the cup he was holding, then looked back at his dad. He then replied (in his you-can't-be-serious voice), "Dad, are you trying to tell me this little salamander could pick me up and carry me back to his home? I don't think so!" (Picnic in the Park~ Jenny Evans)
"My 4-year-old son was up in a tree in our backyard one summer afternoon. From his vantage point, he could see over the fence and onto the road that ran beside our home. After a few minutes, I heard the jingle of the ice cream truck making his rounds for the first time that summer. I braced myself for my son to come running in for some change, but what he came running in for sent me to the floor with laughter. "Mom, mom!" he screamed. "It's the sing-along mail guy!" It then occurred to me that he had no recollection of ever seeing an ice cream truck before, but he was very familiar with the comparable little white mail truck!" (The Sing-a-long Mail Guy~ Rebecca Cleary)
The things that we learn from our children are humbling. Their insight is valuable. I find myself wondering what in the world I would do if Becky and I would have never had any children.
I hope to remember, and enjoy, all that flows freely from the mouths of babes.
"At our annual family picnic, my nephew found a salamander in the creek and, quite proud of his catch, brought it over to the adults setting up lunch. After we all ooo'd and ah'd about his finding, my brother-in-law told him it was time to eat and to go put the salamander back where he had found it. My nephew said he wanted to keep it as a pet. They went back and forth about this for several minutes, when my brother-in-law said, "How would you feel if someone snatched you out of your home and took you away? This salamander needs to go back to his home." Dan looked at his dad, perplexed, then looked at that salamander down in the cup he was holding, then looked back at his dad. He then replied (in his you-can't-be-serious voice), "Dad, are you trying to tell me this little salamander could pick me up and carry me back to his home? I don't think so!" (Picnic in the Park~ Jenny Evans)
"My 4-year-old son was up in a tree in our backyard one summer afternoon. From his vantage point, he could see over the fence and onto the road that ran beside our home. After a few minutes, I heard the jingle of the ice cream truck making his rounds for the first time that summer. I braced myself for my son to come running in for some change, but what he came running in for sent me to the floor with laughter. "Mom, mom!" he screamed. "It's the sing-along mail guy!" It then occurred to me that he had no recollection of ever seeing an ice cream truck before, but he was very familiar with the comparable little white mail truck!" (The Sing-a-long Mail Guy~ Rebecca Cleary)
The things that we learn from our children are humbling. Their insight is valuable. I find myself wondering what in the world I would do if Becky and I would have never had any children.
I hope to remember, and enjoy, all that flows freely from the mouths of babes.
Monday, March 12, 2012
His Touch
One of my favorite verses is that of "The Touch of the Master's Hand." I'm sure that you have all read it but read it again and feel of its influence.
'Twas battered and scarred,
And the auctioneer thought it
hardly worth his while
To waste his time on the old violin,
but he held it up with a smile.
"What am I bid, good people", he cried,
"Who starts the bidding for me?"
"One dollar, one dollar, Do I hear two?"
"Two dollars, who makes it three?"
"Three dollars once, three dollars twice, going for three,"
But, No,
From the room far back a gray bearded man
Came forward and picked up the bow,
Then wiping the dust from the old violin
And tightening up the strings,
He played a melody, pure and sweet
As sweet as the angel sings.
The music ceased and the auctioneer
With a voice that was quiet and low,
Said "What now am I bid for this old violin?"
As he held it aloft with its' bow.
"One thousand, one thousand, Do I hear two?"
"Two thousand, Who makes it three?"
"Three thousand once, three thousand twice,
Going and gone", said he.
The audience cheered,
But some of them cried,
"We just don't understand."
"What changed its' worth?"
Swift came the reply.
"The Touch of the Masters Hand."
And many a man with life out of tune
All battered with bourbon and gin
Is auctioned cheap to a thoughtless crowd
Much like that old violin
A mess of pottage, a glass of wine,
A game and he travels on.
He is going once, he is going twice,
He is going and almost gone.
But the Master comes,
And the foolish crowd never can quite understand,
The worth of a soul and the change that is wrought
By the Touch of the Masters' Hand.
(The Touch of the Master's Hand~Myra Brooks Welch)
It doesn't matter who you are or in what stage of life you are in, with His touch, we are all equally important. It is through His touch that we are able to have more than we can even comprehend, in this life and into the next one, too.
Each of us have talents and gifts that lift the spirit of someone who is troubled or has lost their way, just a little.
Remember who you are...You are important!
'Twas battered and scarred,
And the auctioneer thought it
hardly worth his while
To waste his time on the old violin,
but he held it up with a smile.
"What am I bid, good people", he cried,
"Who starts the bidding for me?"
"One dollar, one dollar, Do I hear two?"
"Two dollars, who makes it three?"
"Three dollars once, three dollars twice, going for three,"
But, No,
From the room far back a gray bearded man
Came forward and picked up the bow,
Then wiping the dust from the old violin
And tightening up the strings,
He played a melody, pure and sweet
As sweet as the angel sings.
The music ceased and the auctioneer
With a voice that was quiet and low,
Said "What now am I bid for this old violin?"
As he held it aloft with its' bow.
"One thousand, one thousand, Do I hear two?"
"Two thousand, Who makes it three?"
"Three thousand once, three thousand twice,
Going and gone", said he.
The audience cheered,
But some of them cried,
"We just don't understand."
"What changed its' worth?"
Swift came the reply.
"The Touch of the Masters Hand."
And many a man with life out of tune
All battered with bourbon and gin
Is auctioned cheap to a thoughtless crowd
Much like that old violin
A mess of pottage, a glass of wine,
A game and he travels on.
He is going once, he is going twice,
He is going and almost gone.
But the Master comes,
And the foolish crowd never can quite understand,
The worth of a soul and the change that is wrought
By the Touch of the Masters' Hand.
(The Touch of the Master's Hand~Myra Brooks Welch)
It doesn't matter who you are or in what stage of life you are in, with His touch, we are all equally important. It is through His touch that we are able to have more than we can even comprehend, in this life and into the next one, too.
Each of us have talents and gifts that lift the spirit of someone who is troubled or has lost their way, just a little.
Remember who you are...You are important!
Sunday, March 11, 2012
I Prayed
Today, we spent a day as a family. It was a nice day. We saw some scenery of the beautiful state of Utah.
As we began our day, our youngest, Danny, complained of his teeth aching. Shortly thereafter, he complained that his eyes hurt. Becky told him that he needed to just close his eyes and give them a rest.
We went about our day and enjoyed it together.
Tonight, as we were traveling home, Danny said, "Mom, do you know why my teeth and eyes don't hurt anymore?" Becky asked him why. He adamantly responded with. "I prayed."
Becky and I wonder all the time how two people can be as blessed as we are. Heaven smiles on our lives with mass amounts of generosity.
I love life! Heavenly Father loves us immensely! We love Him, too. It's been a wonderful day.
As we began our day, our youngest, Danny, complained of his teeth aching. Shortly thereafter, he complained that his eyes hurt. Becky told him that he needed to just close his eyes and give them a rest.
We went about our day and enjoyed it together.
Tonight, as we were traveling home, Danny said, "Mom, do you know why my teeth and eyes don't hurt anymore?" Becky asked him why. He adamantly responded with. "I prayed."
Becky and I wonder all the time how two people can be as blessed as we are. Heaven smiles on our lives with mass amounts of generosity.
I love life! Heavenly Father loves us immensely! We love Him, too. It's been a wonderful day.
Saturday, March 10, 2012
A Little Bit Of Knowledge
Today, is a day that I am grateful for the knowledge that I have. Both of our vehicles needed brake pads changed and the oil and filter job done as well. I have done both of these things many times. I'm not a mechanic, by any means, but I figure that I help put together a commercial airliner so I should easily be able to do some of the simple things with a car. The kids helped me jack the cars up and remove the lug nuts from each of the wheels. It was nice to have them close by (and helping, of course.)
I enjoy knowledge and the satisfying feeling it gives to me. Even though, I know very little, I feel grateful for the healthy mind I have been blessed with.
Our youngest son, Danny, asked me while we were working, if I really did know what I was doing. I had to work hard not to start laughing right out loud. I told him that I did, in fact, know what I was doing. His next question followed. "Where did you learn to do this, dad?" I told him that I learned how to do these things from Uncle Spencer. (That is my brother-in-law) "I'll bet you're glad he taught you, huh dad?" I am very grateful that he taught me such knowledge.
These small pieces of knowledge stimulate my mind. It's never too late to learn. I love it!
I enjoy knowledge and the satisfying feeling it gives to me. Even though, I know very little, I feel grateful for the healthy mind I have been blessed with.
Our youngest son, Danny, asked me while we were working, if I really did know what I was doing. I had to work hard not to start laughing right out loud. I told him that I did, in fact, know what I was doing. His next question followed. "Where did you learn to do this, dad?" I told him that I learned how to do these things from Uncle Spencer. (That is my brother-in-law) "I'll bet you're glad he taught you, huh dad?" I am very grateful that he taught me such knowledge.
These small pieces of knowledge stimulate my mind. It's never too late to learn. I love it!
Friday, March 9, 2012
Thanks!
Is there really a better feeling in the world than being thanked by someone?
A few years ago, a young woman from a neighboring town won a scholarship to a prestigious college. Although the inner-city high school she attended was plagued with problems, she overcame them and excelled.
When she graduated, she commended the often-maligned school for its challenging courses and her teachers for their special interest and encouragement.
"I can't say enough good things about the school and the teachers who gave me so much of themselves," she said. "I shall be eternally grateful to them."
Saying thanks not only brightens someone else's world, it brightens yours. If you're feeling left out, unloved or unappreciated, try reaching out to others. It may be just the medicine you need.
'Thank you' needs to flow more freely from our mouths. There are many people who do great things for us, every day of our life. They are deserving of our utmost gratitude!
A few years ago, a young woman from a neighboring town won a scholarship to a prestigious college. Although the inner-city high school she attended was plagued with problems, she overcame them and excelled.
When she graduated, she commended the often-maligned school for its challenging courses and her teachers for their special interest and encouragement.
"I can't say enough good things about the school and the teachers who gave me so much of themselves," she said. "I shall be eternally grateful to them."
Saying thanks not only brightens someone else's world, it brightens yours. If you're feeling left out, unloved or unappreciated, try reaching out to others. It may be just the medicine you need.
'Thank you' needs to flow more freely from our mouths. There are many people who do great things for us, every day of our life. They are deserving of our utmost gratitude!
Thursday, March 8, 2012
Music Soothes The Soul
The sound of good music is hard to beat. I heard a song that brought back great memories when I was a kid.
"I believe for every drop of rain that falls a flower grows
I believe that somewhere in the darkest night a candle glows
I believe for everyone who goes astray someone will come to show the way
I believe, I believe
I believe above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard
I believe that someone in the great somewhere hears every word
Every time I hear a newborn baby cry or touch a leaf or see the sky
Then I know why I believe
Every time I hear a newborn baby cry or touch a leaf or see the sky
Then I know why I believe." (The Lettermen)
My dad had many albums by the Lettermen. They were a familiar sound in our home.
Each of us have memories that are directly connected with songs. I love to think of an especially meaningful experience that has a song associated with it.
I love music! Good music brings my heart a great deal of comfort.
"I believe for every drop of rain that falls a flower grows
I believe that somewhere in the darkest night a candle glows
I believe for everyone who goes astray someone will come to show the way
I believe, I believe
I believe above the storm the smallest prayer will still be heard
I believe that someone in the great somewhere hears every word
Every time I hear a newborn baby cry or touch a leaf or see the sky
Then I know why I believe
Every time I hear a newborn baby cry or touch a leaf or see the sky
Then I know why I believe." (The Lettermen)
My dad had many albums by the Lettermen. They were a familiar sound in our home.
Each of us have memories that are directly connected with songs. I love to think of an especially meaningful experience that has a song associated with it.
I love music! Good music brings my heart a great deal of comfort.
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
Celebrate Their Successes
I love to watch our children. It is really fun to see all that they do. Their potential amazes me. Everything that they know and all of the things that they can do just blows my mind.
I don't ever want to come across as one of those obnoxious parents who has to talk about how great they think their kids are compared to all of the other kids around. I do, however, want to be a parent who will see the good that our kids do and rightfully recognize them for their goodness.
I am incredibly grateful for kids who are giving life their best shot. I understand that they are as imperfect as are other kids but I love what they are trying to accomplish.
Their sense of humor is refreshing and openly welcomed, in our home.
Becky and I were laughing at the genetics that run deeply when looking at mine and Danny's legs. Becky asked Danny to turn around so that we could see the back of his calves. Becky said that he had my legs. She said to him that he was going to grow up to be like me. She asked him if that's what he wanted. He told her that that would be okay except that dad's hands are all broken up like this. He lifted his hands into the air to show Becky what his hands would then look like. Translation: I'm not flexible at all. The older I get, the worse it becomes. When I straighten my fingers and position my hand like I am about to give somebody a 'high five', my fingers are somewhat bent, and no matter how hard I try, my fingers do not straighten out. We about fell over laughing at his honest response to all that we were talking about.
Our other three children are equally as wonderful. I love their personalities and their goals. Every day is a celebration of something else that good that has happened. I'm all about success! As should we all be. HOORAH!
I don't ever want to come across as one of those obnoxious parents who has to talk about how great they think their kids are compared to all of the other kids around. I do, however, want to be a parent who will see the good that our kids do and rightfully recognize them for their goodness.
I am incredibly grateful for kids who are giving life their best shot. I understand that they are as imperfect as are other kids but I love what they are trying to accomplish.
Their sense of humor is refreshing and openly welcomed, in our home.
Becky and I were laughing at the genetics that run deeply when looking at mine and Danny's legs. Becky asked Danny to turn around so that we could see the back of his calves. Becky said that he had my legs. She said to him that he was going to grow up to be like me. She asked him if that's what he wanted. He told her that that would be okay except that dad's hands are all broken up like this. He lifted his hands into the air to show Becky what his hands would then look like. Translation: I'm not flexible at all. The older I get, the worse it becomes. When I straighten my fingers and position my hand like I am about to give somebody a 'high five', my fingers are somewhat bent, and no matter how hard I try, my fingers do not straighten out. We about fell over laughing at his honest response to all that we were talking about.
Our other three children are equally as wonderful. I love their personalities and their goals. Every day is a celebration of something else that good that has happened. I'm all about success! As should we all be. HOORAH!
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Love and Like, Both Are Important
Since I was a young boy, I dreamed of one day experiencing the romance that my parents enjoy.
The important part of their relationship is that they like and love each other. You may wonder what the difference really is.
I see the difference this way. There are couples that I know that love each other with all of their hearts. There is no doubt. I don't believe that every couple really like each other. The proof is that many men and women enjoy their own interests and appear to be self-absorbed with the things that they personally enjoy. The people who like each other enjoy being together, as much time as possible.
I have been blessed to marry a woman who likes to be with me. I, in turn, enjoy spending time with her. I can't imagine life any differently. I'm not saying that the way others do it is wrong, but it makes me grateful that I enjoy what I do. There is security and comfort that comes with that.
I have a firm belief that happiness will prevail, between a man and a woman, when they like as much as they love.
Thanks, Becky for a wonderful life! You make every day as good as it can possibly be.
The important part of their relationship is that they like and love each other. You may wonder what the difference really is.
I see the difference this way. There are couples that I know that love each other with all of their hearts. There is no doubt. I don't believe that every couple really like each other. The proof is that many men and women enjoy their own interests and appear to be self-absorbed with the things that they personally enjoy. The people who like each other enjoy being together, as much time as possible.
I have been blessed to marry a woman who likes to be with me. I, in turn, enjoy spending time with her. I can't imagine life any differently. I'm not saying that the way others do it is wrong, but it makes me grateful that I enjoy what I do. There is security and comfort that comes with that.
I have a firm belief that happiness will prevail, between a man and a woman, when they like as much as they love.
Thanks, Becky for a wonderful life! You make every day as good as it can possibly be.
Monday, March 5, 2012
We're All In It Together
Life is a wonderful thing. There are times when we may wonder what the reason is for a certain obstacle. The reality is that challenges are woven into all of our lives. They are what molds us into what and who we are ultimately to become. It is fun to watch life's challenges and the wonderful effects, for good, that they have on an individual.
The common thread of life is that we are all in it together.
We are never forgotten!
"As a child, when I would look at the little forget-me-nots, I sometimes felt a little like that flower—small and very insignificant. I wondered if I would be forgotten by my family or by my Heavenly Father.
Years later I can look back on that young boy with tenderness and compassion. And I do know now—I was never forgotten.
And I know something else: . . . as an Apostle of our Master, Jesus Christ, I proclaim with all the certainty and conviction of my heart—neither are you!
You are not forgotten.
Wherever you are, whatever the circumstances may be, you are not forgotten. No matter how dark your days may seem, no matter how insignificant you may feel, no matter how overshadowed you think you may be, your Heavenly Father has not forgotten you. In fact, He loves you with an infinite love.
Just think of it: You are known and remembered by the most majestic, powerful, and glorious Being in the universe! You are loved by the King of infinite space and everlasting time!" (Dieter F. Uchtdorf)
We are all very important! It doesn't matter how successful we are in the eyes of the world. It doesn't matter how popular we are amongst the people around us.
When I was a teenager, there was a girl who was a year older than me. She was new in the neighborhood and many of us kids thought she was a little odd. (That was my immature way of thinking) I was involved in a practical joke that involved this new girl many months after she moved into the neighborhood. The joke that we found hilarious, backfired on us. What was intended to be funny turned into a horrible offense. I still remember the hurt in her eyes.
I don't live my life with huge regrets, but I would love the opportunity to right that wrong that I participated in.
I am trying to be accepting of everyone. It is very clear to me that we're all in it together.
The common thread of life is that we are all in it together.
We are never forgotten!
"As a child, when I would look at the little forget-me-nots, I sometimes felt a little like that flower—small and very insignificant. I wondered if I would be forgotten by my family or by my Heavenly Father.
Years later I can look back on that young boy with tenderness and compassion. And I do know now—I was never forgotten.
And I know something else: . . . as an Apostle of our Master, Jesus Christ, I proclaim with all the certainty and conviction of my heart—neither are you!
You are not forgotten.
Wherever you are, whatever the circumstances may be, you are not forgotten. No matter how dark your days may seem, no matter how insignificant you may feel, no matter how overshadowed you think you may be, your Heavenly Father has not forgotten you. In fact, He loves you with an infinite love.
Just think of it: You are known and remembered by the most majestic, powerful, and glorious Being in the universe! You are loved by the King of infinite space and everlasting time!" (Dieter F. Uchtdorf)
We are all very important! It doesn't matter how successful we are in the eyes of the world. It doesn't matter how popular we are amongst the people around us.
When I was a teenager, there was a girl who was a year older than me. She was new in the neighborhood and many of us kids thought she was a little odd. (That was my immature way of thinking) I was involved in a practical joke that involved this new girl many months after she moved into the neighborhood. The joke that we found hilarious, backfired on us. What was intended to be funny turned into a horrible offense. I still remember the hurt in her eyes.
I don't live my life with huge regrets, but I would love the opportunity to right that wrong that I participated in.
I am trying to be accepting of everyone. It is very clear to me that we're all in it together.
Sunday, March 4, 2012
Service Being Our Greatest Joy
I continue to watch this very carefully in my own life. There is power in serving somebody else. Our greatest example is our Savior, Jesus Christ. From the New Testament we read:
"He riseth from supper, and laid aside his garments; and took a towel, and girded himself.
"He riseth from supper, and laid aside his garments; and took a towel, and girded himself.
After that he poureth water into a bason, and began to wash the disciples’ feet, and to wipe them with the towel wherewith he was girded."
I am humbled by His great love, for not only His disciples, but for each one of us.
There is power in service that we render for our spouse and our children. There isn't a better opportunity, in this world, than to give Christ-like service to those who are closest to us.
I watch with hope that a man will, with gentleness, treat his sweetheart with love. In turn, I anticipate that the gentleness will be reciprocated from her to him. There is nothing better for a strong relationship than these acts of kindness.
I love to hear parents talk kindly to their children. Our family was at Danny's indoor soccer game, last weekend, and a father was giving his young daughter some helpful tips to better her game. He spoke with gentleness and softly, yet his point was heard and well taken by the young girl. I could tell by his example how he talked to his other children and his wife.
My parents taught me as a young boy that the secret to a successful marriage is to serve, serve, and serve some more. A person can't serve too much. I have witnessed it, first hand, in my own marriage.
I am thankful for Jesus in my life. I am trying to be like Him.
The words of a favorite song give great clarity to this subject and act as a great reminder of what I should be doing.
"As I have loved you, love one another. This new commandment, love one another. By this shall men know, ye, are my disciples. If ye have love, one to another."
I am trying to love my family and everybody else around me through acts of kindly service.
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Life Is Bright
Today, I wanted to share a story, that we have all heard about, but continues to inspire and remind us of the importance of positive thinking, even in the face of adversity.
When Alex, who was diagnosed with childhood cancer just before her first birthday, was four, she told her parents she wanted to set up a front-yard lemonade stand. Her plan: to give the money to doctors to help them find a cure. Her first “Alex’s Lemonade Stand”, held with the help of her older brother Patrick, raised an astonishing $2,000 in one day. While bravely fighting her own cancer, Alex continued to set up lemonade stands every year. As news spread of the remarkable girl so dedicated to helping other sick children, people everywhere were inspired to start their own lemonade stands—donating the proceeds to her cause.
In 2004 when Alex passed away at the age of eight—her stand and inspiration had raised more than $1 million towards finding a cure for the disease that took her life.
I read another great piece today that helps to form in our mind the importance of 'looking on the bright side.'
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we are able to go on a nice vacation or when we retire. The truth is there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with…and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting… Until your car or home is paid off.
Until you get a new car or home.
Until your kids leave the house.
Until you go back to school.
Until you finish school.
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married.
Until you have kids.
Until you retire.
Until summer.
Until spring.
Until winter.
Until fall.
Until you die.
There is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey, not a destination. (Author Unknown)
Becky and I prayed together last evening and I couldn't help but think about our niece, Briana. She is just a few days from leaving the Missionary Training Center in Provo, Utah to go to her assignment in Indiana, as a missionary for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I hope that her time spent in the MTC has been worthwhile to her and effective for her personally. I thought about my nine weeks spent in the exact center where she is. I loved every minute there. It was a highlight of my missionary experience. I hope that even during discouraging times, she has made the most of her time, knowing that the time, there, would end and then it would be 'game time' with all that she has learned. I love you Briana!
We are all part of this great journey, called life. It is up to me and you to make the most out of the situation we are in. Work hard and the rewards, in the end, will all be worth it!
When Alex, who was diagnosed with childhood cancer just before her first birthday, was four, she told her parents she wanted to set up a front-yard lemonade stand. Her plan: to give the money to doctors to help them find a cure. Her first “Alex’s Lemonade Stand”, held with the help of her older brother Patrick, raised an astonishing $2,000 in one day. While bravely fighting her own cancer, Alex continued to set up lemonade stands every year. As news spread of the remarkable girl so dedicated to helping other sick children, people everywhere were inspired to start their own lemonade stands—donating the proceeds to her cause.
In 2004 when Alex passed away at the age of eight—her stand and inspiration had raised more than $1 million towards finding a cure for the disease that took her life.
I read another great piece today that helps to form in our mind the importance of 'looking on the bright side.'
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we are able to go on a nice vacation or when we retire. The truth is there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with…and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting… Until your car or home is paid off.
Until you get a new car or home.
Until your kids leave the house.
Until you go back to school.
Until you finish school.
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married.
Until you have kids.
Until you retire.
Until summer.
Until spring.
Until winter.
Until fall.
Until you die.
There is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey, not a destination. (Author Unknown)
Becky and I prayed together last evening and I couldn't help but think about our niece, Briana. She is just a few days from leaving the Missionary Training Center in Provo, Utah to go to her assignment in Indiana, as a missionary for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I hope that her time spent in the MTC has been worthwhile to her and effective for her personally. I thought about my nine weeks spent in the exact center where she is. I loved every minute there. It was a highlight of my missionary experience. I hope that even during discouraging times, she has made the most of her time, knowing that the time, there, would end and then it would be 'game time' with all that she has learned. I love you Briana!
We are all part of this great journey, called life. It is up to me and you to make the most out of the situation we are in. Work hard and the rewards, in the end, will all be worth it!
Friday, March 2, 2012
Contentment
Today, I had a conversation with a coworker that caused me some frustration. He made the comment about the town that I live in as being one that he and his wife had no desire to live because of the mass amounts of sexual predators. I asked him if either he or his wife ever lived in Magna. He of course, said no. I asked him how he knew that it is such a horrible place to live. He said that a site on the internet ranked it high in this category.
I will be the first to say that Magna is not the top choice for everyone to want to live. I must say that I thoroughly enjoy the community we are a part of and the joy it is to make a positive impact on it. We enjoy the many associations we have with the people of this community.
I learned a valuable lesson today. I should never be guilty of talking negatively about the place that someone lives.
I was not offended by his ignorance but I was frustrated by his lack of maturity to look into and find out about a place before making an affirmative statement.
Every town or city has its positive and negative. I believe that the experience somebody has, in a particular place, is dependant upon what they invest.
I believe that looking at something with a positive pair of glasses is the better way.
I want to be a positive thinker and I want people around me to know that is the way I feel.
I will be the first to say that Magna is not the top choice for everyone to want to live. I must say that I thoroughly enjoy the community we are a part of and the joy it is to make a positive impact on it. We enjoy the many associations we have with the people of this community.
I learned a valuable lesson today. I should never be guilty of talking negatively about the place that someone lives.
I was not offended by his ignorance but I was frustrated by his lack of maturity to look into and find out about a place before making an affirmative statement.
Every town or city has its positive and negative. I believe that the experience somebody has, in a particular place, is dependant upon what they invest.
I believe that looking at something with a positive pair of glasses is the better way.
I want to be a positive thinker and I want people around me to know that is the way I feel.
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Well-Rounded
I vividly remember a conversation I had with my dad when I was a teenager. The memory of the conversation surfaced today during a visit with a co-worker. This man loves to ski. It's about all that he can talk about. I could hear my dad's voice from that conversation long ago. "Be a well-rounded person." Now that meant something to me at that time because looking back now it felt like all I was interested in was playing or watching something that had to do with sports. I wouldn't have called myself well-rounded.
I'm not sure why that particular thought came to mind today but I think that the advice, my dad gave me, was solid and spot on.
I am of the opinion that a person can't learn too much about the things in life. No matter how much I think I may know about one thing, there is always something else that I know very little about. The irony too, is that the older I get, the more I realize how little I know about anything. That cracks me up.
It seems wise to learn about many different things.
We once had a neighbor who knew a little about many different things. Becky and I would laugh as we watched him and wondered if there was anything he didn't know or couldn't do. I'm sure he had things that he wished he knew more about, but from our perspective, it appeared that he was very knowledgeable.
I want to be well-rounded. I already know that I know just enough to be dangerous. The desire is still there to learn all that I can.
It's a big world out there. Our minds are a complex creation. There is plenty of storage space therein. Learn all that you can.
I'm not sure why that particular thought came to mind today but I think that the advice, my dad gave me, was solid and spot on.
I am of the opinion that a person can't learn too much about the things in life. No matter how much I think I may know about one thing, there is always something else that I know very little about. The irony too, is that the older I get, the more I realize how little I know about anything. That cracks me up.
It seems wise to learn about many different things.
We once had a neighbor who knew a little about many different things. Becky and I would laugh as we watched him and wondered if there was anything he didn't know or couldn't do. I'm sure he had things that he wished he knew more about, but from our perspective, it appeared that he was very knowledgeable.
I want to be well-rounded. I already know that I know just enough to be dangerous. The desire is still there to learn all that I can.
It's a big world out there. Our minds are a complex creation. There is plenty of storage space therein. Learn all that you can.
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