A holiday was fast approaching and a particular man decided that a good gesture would be to do something special, on the holiday, for his young wife. With excitement, the man went to the store and purchased several small gifts as a token of his love for his wife with some spontaneity intertwined to make the holiday a fun occasion. His excitement built and the day finally arrived when the gifts he had purchased would be given to his lovely bride. The anticipation was great as he offered the small gifts. The look on her face was not what the young man had hoped it would be. In fact, her look was one of disgust. She uttered not a word but continued to unwrap the gifts, one by one, until all of the small gifts were opened. Her reaction of disappointment remained the entire time. She looked up at her young, and stunned, husband. "These are kind of stupid." Her punishing words were piercing. The young man stood speechless. The awkward silence continued for a few moments and then the young man walked away. That happened many years ago, and it is the last gift the man ever gave to his wife.
The first time I heard my friend tell me of his experience, my first reaction was one of disbelief. It seemed fabricated. The many years have passed but the open wound still exists. I believe that the hurt is real but at some point in time, the hurt needs to be set aside and my friend needs to move on.
The fact still remains that the tongue is an enemy. The words that exit out of the mouth need to be well thought out. I hold out hope that everything I say to Becky is kind and fun-natured. One of the damaging things people do in a relationship is speak thoughtless words to the one that they love the very most.
Being a good sport is a wonderful thing. To be easily entertained is also respectable.
